Individuals discuss so much concerning the complexity of etiquette in Japan, however in 20 years of residing right here, I feel all of the ins and outs actually boil down to at least one factor: demonstrating respect for others.
That’s why the perfect etiquette tip I may give guests is to be punctual. It requires no talent within the language, no understanding of the social hierarchy or one’s place in it, and no memorization of the delicate meanings within the angle of a bow. And but it demonstrates a respect in direction of everybody you meet and the worth of their time.
Whereas in lots of Western nations and particularly the Latin world, displaying up fashionably late is the norm, in Japan you’re late in case you aren’t 10 minutes early. To not point out that the whole lot from trains to excursions will go away predictably on the dot, with or with out you. Individuals within the service trade will nonetheless be unfailingly well mannered within the face of a buyer’s cavalier angle to time, however I can promise you they’re seething inside—and judging you.
Amid skyrocketing vacationer numbers—Japan is anticipated to welcome a record-breaking 40.2 million guests this yr—a scarcity of timeliness and no-shows have develop into a significant explanation for friction between vacationers and Japanese within the hospitality trade. Eating places and companies was simply booked with out prepayment or assure.
Now, many locations require a bank card assure or introduction by a daily. Significantly for locations in space-squeezed Tokyo that solely have capability for a handful, it’s develop into a mandatory if unwelcome precaution. Not solely does it add to the executive burden, however in a tradition so devoted to impeccable service, many proprietors discover it distressful to start the connection by suggesting that the client could be so impolite as to not hold their reservation.
So don’t be that vacationer. Whilst a buyer, present up on time. In case you are unavoidably delayed, name and allow them to know. Be apologetic for the inconvenience. Repeatedly. Make it clear that you just respect their time, and by extension, their humanity. It’s solely well mannered.